We have all heard the saying “it’s not about what you know but who you know.” There is more that happens in and around us based on the connections that we have with others. The idea of being “an island unto myself” is something that none of us were meant to be. Who we are comes from what is allowed to be encouraged within us by the relationships we have around us. It was Paul who wrote “Do not let anyone fool you. Bad people can make those who want to live good become bad. ” I Corinthians 15:33 NLV We actually become like the people we hang around with.
“Relationships are all there is. Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are individuals that can go it alone. ” – Margaret J. Wheatley
So when it comes to our walk with God why is that so many of us try to do it ourselves. It is something we are all guilty of. Statistics released by George Barna show that the average American pastor spends 7 min a day in prayer and the average Christian about 1 min per day. And we wonder why we struggle so hard to become what we know we are supposed to be becoming and the world around us thinks we are just a bunch of hypocrites who spout off rules for life that we don’t even follow ourselves.
All this work invested into becoming and Jesus stated that we would become if we follow Him. Matthew 4:19 AMP And He said to them, “Follow Me [as My disciples, accepting Me as your Master and Teacher and walking the same path of life that I walk], and I will make you fishers of men.” We strive and struggle and work and miss out on the most important connection we have with our Father in heaven. There was a reason Jesus spent so many hours in communion with His Father. It was because He knew that His source for all He was to become was that connection.
It’s like we have a power cord attached to us, and that cord needs to be plugged in to a power source. And when we desire to follow our path and do what we desire, or do what God wants but in our way and on our schedule we come unplugged. And we instantly lose our ability to become what God designed and desires us to be. Jesus said to stay connected to Him and the fruit would take care of itself. Fruit is a result of being connected, not of us striving and struggling to be something.
John 15:5-6 MSG “I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing.“ It is up to us to decide whether we will bear fruit or not. If we maintain the connection a harvest is a sure thing. Or we can continue to fight it out on our own convinced that we can do it ourselves. The truth is we become because of relationship. Will we plug in?